My fiancé told his friends immediately by sending a picture of my positive pregnancy test to them. One friend called back and asked if the dog was pregnant. That night he went out with them to seek some emotional support I guess. Luckily, they are a good group of guys and didn't freak him. He broke the news to his dad when he rolled into town a few weeks later. I saw the two of them sitting on the sofa having what looked like a serious conversation one night. I nervously went upstairs to wait for an reaction. Although he is already in his late twenties, he still relies on his dad for financial support. We live in the family home rent free! Without his dad, he probably wouldn't be able to work his non-profit position. I could tell that he was nervous about telling his dad for fear that he disapprove and totally cut him off. Turns out his dad was very supportive. I think maybe he was ready for a grandchild.
I didn't know how my parents were going to take the news. While I wouldn't say that they are ultra conservative, they are pretty traditional Chinese parents. It was the end of the world when I broke up with my Chinese boyfriend. They generally like my fiancé, but I know that they would have preferred someone Chinese. Whenever my mom talked about marriage, she would bring up the wedding dowry or bride price. Here is a good description of the practice. http://myweddingplanningtips.com/2009/07/02/chinese-wedding-traditions-the-bride-price-or-ping-kam/ I know, its weird and we live in America now. Still, my parents still expect the traditional Chinese wedding with the huge wedding banquet and all the customs. So here I was, pregnant and unmarried. What shame! Surprisingly, my mom took it pretty well. She loves grandkids. Of course, she asked me when I was going to get married and asked whether my finance's parents were going to all the customary things. When I told her that his parents are very Americanized and wouldn't understand these customs, she made it sound like I was unloved and unwanted by his family. Maybe I'm making a big deal out of it. I just find it awkward to say, “Excuse me future father-in-law, would you mind going to my parents house to negotiate the bride price?” Plus, I have no idea on how to mix all the wedding customs and make everyone, including myself, happy. That's the reason why more than half a year after getting engaged, we still hadn't set a wedding date. It's just too much stress! What about eloping? But will I regret it years later? I left it to my mom to tell my dad. From what I hear, he just exclaimed, “She's pregnant?!” and made some comment about this is what happens when you have girls.
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